ARE RELATIONSHIPS REALLY WORK?
- Kevin Kishor
- Dec 12, 2018
- 3 min read
I hear both sides of this idea so often...I wonder where you stand?
I feel like it is such a common cliche now for people to say "well relationships are work" often they'll even say "hard work". No matter what the situation is there is usually a negative stigma attached to it when they say it - wouldn't you agree?
I am not denying that relationships require effort but when people use the word "work" I have to question how they feel about that or if it is just an easy way to brush off things we find hard?
The most important thing I want us to consider here is; how do we view work?
If a person doesn't like to work or the work they do perhaps to pay the bills then, I understand the reason there is a negative attached to the saying "relationships are hard work". In my experience this is very true...most people dread having to get up for work especially if they punch a clock, work a 9-5 that they just need to do, or work for a company/environment that is not enjoyable each day in hopes of racking up enough time to take vacation/sick days.
On the flip side, I also many people who love their work. They are passionate about what they do and who they serve. Maybe they've built a business they are proud of, or found a way to turn their passion for art into income or they work for a company/organization that serves a cause they fully believe in or stand behind because they are making a difference.
Therefore, my question is which one are you? I ask myself the same question as well because I do a few different things with my time, some I am certainly more passionate about than others. Hopefully, if you haven't made this connection before then now you can between "work" and relationships. If you already thought on the same lines then maybe this is just a gentle reminder.
Nonetheless, anything that we hope will have a desirable outcome usually requires us to put in the effort to be worthy of the income. I believe the same applies to relationships. We definitely have to work for them, its just what our mindset is towards doing work that matters. There is a saying; "just because it is simple doesn't mean it is easy" usually it also ends in "or everyone would be doing it". I would argue that when we break it down relationships are also simple but not everyone is doing it. I would dare to say many think they are but are not doing it well. However some are, I have met many people who have great relationships and long ones. This doesn't just apply to Romantic ones either. But they would be the first to say it doesn't make things easier - life is still life and it is real!
So like Tony Robbins says in one of his models for success;
There is always potential - that requires action - then we can see results - all is connected to belief.
So can we ask ourselves...1. do we believe in the potential of relationships around us and 2. if so will we choose the actions required to experience positive outcomes? Sometimes, we decide you know what - certain relationships aren't worth it to us and that is ok we have our reasons (hopefully good ones). But then we see the direct outcome when we don't "work" for them. We always have a choice - what will you choose to work or not to work, and what will be your mindset towards that work?
As always I thank you for reading.
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Sincerely,
KK.
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