WHO GOES FIRST?

Keeping with February's theme of Love & Romance...

I've been thinking about this whole idea of being "first". I often remember the movie Hitch starring Will Smith and there is a scene where he is Coaching Kevin James on when it comes time for the kiss. He says, "you can't go in all the way...you lean in 90% of the way and wait to let her come the rest of the way." On the flip side I've been watching the Bachelor again (yes I blame my Grandmother still for it). But I am always in awe of the boldness of the Women. Although, in fairness it is not a typical dating situation!

I feel like this whole idea of being first has definitely changed. It used be clear that Men were supposed to initiate most things when it comes to Love & Romance. However, our world has changed so much especially in the "West" or North America/Europe. Women have taken on so many roles that used to be reserved Men in all areas of life. Don't get me wrong as a Father of 4 Daughters I am a major advocate for Women all I'm saying is things are very different now.

You might disagree depending on your experience, or perhaps you think things should remain "traditional" in the sense that the Man should do the "courting". I'm not taking sides as usual I just want to raise the discussion...In my experience now being a single "older" Man I have been really surprised how many Women are not afraid or at least willing to be take the initiative. I can say it is flattering at times, and yet it also can be shocking/confusing as well.

Nonetheless, my reason for bringing this topic to the table this week is to encourage us in our Relationships to consider who goes first...

I mean; first to be affectionate, first to reach out, first to communicate, first to be thoughtful, first to consider the good of the relationship, first to...(you can fill in the blanks).

Maybe If you're in a Dating phase, you want someone to court you?

But maybe if you're in a Committed Relationship you're tired of always having to be first?

One of my favourite sayings was always; "be the first to love".

So I guess what I want to leave us with this week is...are we willing to be the first?

Maybe, we don't need to worry so much about cultural norms or expectations for our behaviour. Maybe, we should just search ourselves on a regular basis and if we feel we can act in any given situation in a way we feel comfortable with it is ok. If we are not sacrificing our dignity or putting ourselves in a position to be taken advantage of -then maybe we should risk and be first!

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I look forward to visiting more on Love & Romance next week.

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Sincerely,

KK.

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